Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Magic?

About ten days ago, I attended a Calgary Reads fundraiser The Big Book Club at Hotel Arts. It was a great evening spending time with booklovers and hearing Will Schwalbe talk about the writing of his book “The End of Your Life Book Club”. He wrote the memoir as a result of spending time sharing books and conversation , in the last two years of his dying mother’s life. The book is both joyful and sad, as is most of the really meaningful stuff of life. The books they shared inspired, provoked and challenged them and it brought them together in conversation, ostensibly about the books but in reality about them. The letters on the page blended into words that morphed into ideas and synthesized into imagination and memories. They were richer for sharing the books and the conversation. I think we all are richer when the chain from letters to imagination occurs.

I am a reader. Fifty books last year and twenty-three already this year. Books have inspired, provoked and challenged me since the magic key unlocked the reading chain. I don’t remember a time when I couldn’t read, didn’t read. My kids and grandkids are mostly readers and I don’t remember them ‘learning’ to read. I suspect that there was someone in my life and theirs that opened the first spine and began gradually, gradually, and suddenly opening the door to Tome Sawyer, Harry Potter, Sherlock Holmes, menus, instructions, schoolwork but I can’t draw it from a time before reading.

Steacy Collyer, the ED of Calgary Reads, spoke at The Big Book Club about the number of children who arrive at school willing but unready to learn to read. In Canada 28% of kids are in that category. Without some intervention and inspiration I wonder if a passage from one of my favorite books might have looked like this.


“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to."
"I don't much care where –"
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go.”
¯ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


Would this have been like not receiving the key to unlock the reading chain? As I stare at these squiggles (a legitimate Microsoft font) I am baffled and overwhelmed as to where I begin. I can feel ‘give up’ creeping in. “It’s too hard” sneaking up. “ Maybe I can just fake it” being offered.  My confidence is eroded just imagining this predicament and the idea that reading could be joyful doesn’t seem possible.

I am not and educator or a tutor. I am not a specialist in brain development or curriculum. I only know the importance reading has played in my life and how it has shaped me. I beam when I hear my grandkids discussing with each other the stories they are reading and the tales they are creating. Even though I don’t remember the person who gave me and them the gift, I understand that there must have been someone. Along with the 18 engagement initiatives that Calgary Reads provides they also recruit, train and deploy someone into the lives of hundreds of kids every year. While this doesn’t solve everything, it can be that simple for many kids. It can be the experience that changes the passage above into the one below.



“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to."
"I don't much care where –"
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland 

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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Creating a Movement

My friend Wayne Stewart wrote these thoughts in 2009. I think they have a lot of relevance in the work we are doing today.


Movement Making #1 (page references to “Getting to Maybe”)

Why make a movement (advantages)
  • Increase impact exponentially
  • Bring disparate groups working on the issue together
  • Impact the ‘system’
  • Work on underlying causes and prevent reoccurrence
  • Deal with the issue in all of its complexity (beyond the simple and complicated)

Characteristics of a ‘movement’
  • Complex, well beyond simple and complicated
  • Full of ambiguity and paradox
  • Seemingly lacking control
  • In a constant state of change, incapable of being controlled
  • Not capable of measurement by traditional measures
  • Characterized by systems thinking, only understood as a ‘whole’
  • Questions abound, very few answers
  • Intentionality and complexity in tension (21)
  • Relationships are key

Characteristics of a ‘movement maker’ (leader)
  • Has all the skills of the ‘essential modern competency’ (ix)
  • Passionate about the issue, unwilling to accept ‘second best’
  • Driven by a sense of shame (35) and by a ‘call’ (36)
  • Understands the issue fully, in all of its complexity (25)
  • The characteristics of a servant leader, particularly:
    • Listening
    • Conceptualization
    • Awareness, of self first and others
    • Humility
    • Persuasion, political skills
    • Foresight
  • Deep understanding of self
  • Considerable dose of self-esteem
  • Humility, absence of arrogance, willing to let others take credit (Collins’ mirror)
  • Loads of courage (to act in the face of uncertainty and lack of clarity)
  • Perseverance and patience (while impatient at lack of movement- paradox)
  • At the same time, strong on implementation
  • Can-do mentality modified by reflection, visionary (20)
  • Able to think and do simultaneously (thoughtful actors and restless thinkers- 61)
  • Resilient (65)
  • Secure, willing to be fired, able to exist without the security of regular salary
  • Able to deal and comfortable with paradox and ambiguity
  • Comfortable with lack of measurable targets (‘maybe’ rather than ‘yes’)
  • Comfortable with generative work, able to lead others into and through this
  • Comfortable with a sense of serendipity, conviction, risk taking, faith (46)
  • Dreams big, acts bold
  • Must be free of ‘normal requirements’ of a NP leader- funding, operations, regular reporting, performance targets, etc
  • Extremely effective communicator to all audiences
  • Able to vary presentation to meet specific needs of audience
  • Strong advocate

Risks for the movement
  • Our habit of keeping arenas of action separate (85)
  • Our need for answers, lack of comfort with questions
  • Devotion to act without thinking
  • Impatience with measures that don’t fit
  • Issues with leader- lacks competence, loses passion, loses credibility

Risks for the leader
  • No place for ‘control freaks’
  • Can get fired as supporters lose patience with lack of results
  • Active resistance from those outside circle
  • Self esteem and confidence can be destroyed
  • Salary lost
  • Can become a pariah to those whose

On the other hand
  • The joy of making a huge difference
  • A legacy that will be remembered
  • Impact on lives
  • Changed systems that change lives (52)
  • Opportunity to bring everyone into the circle

How to ‘Get To Maybe’ (46 ff)
  • Stable source of long term funding
  • Removal of other, ancillary objectives
  • Cooperation within the sector, broad support
  • Detailed review of current approach and willingness to ‘kill’ irrelevance
  • New performance measures (51 and 83)
  • Advisors who understand, are comfortable with movement characteristics

Critical Elements
·         The right leader
·         Strong, stable support

Wayne Stewart
June 5, 2009

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Trust


March 1, 2013

Trust
After the amazing response to "What Are You Reading?" from February 4th, I am paying close attention to my current books. I admit that I am voracious and maybe not always discerning in my reading habits but I reopened Simon Sinek's Start  With Why (http://www.startwithwhy.com/)  and began reading with a new attentiveness.
I was stopped in my tracks when I got to The Influence of Others p112 when Sinek asks who do you trust more, someone you know or someone you don't know? My answer was immediate - someone I know. Why? Is that true? How do you explain celebrity endorsement? politics? advertising?
I do make purchases on amazon based on reader's reviews. I never plan a trip without checking TripAdvisor  I have the Yelp app on my Android phone which I bought after reading user reviews.I seem to make spending decisions based on advice from people that I think I know. Does  following the same reviewers of books, phones, eateries or travel on a regular basis mean that I know them? I seem to trust them more than experts (who I imagine are being paid for their contributions).

I received 5 references this month from current clients and will likely benefit from their trust and recommendations. I connected individuals and groups over the past month because I felt they could be of value to each other. I make lots (maybe all) my decisions based on trust but do I really understand how I use the criteria or intuition to choose between an array of possibilities? I will continue to ponder.
How do you make decisions? Is trust part of your equation?

Reminder
Remarkable people live remarkable lives by using their strengths to strengthen themselves and others.

I am hoping you can help identify some remarkable people you have met or heard about. I would like to share their stories in this newsletter, on a blog, Facebook and in some writing I am doing. If you have been impacted by someone who demonstrated their commitment to you, your family or your community, please submit their name, a short story, and contact information either on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RemarkableLives)  or via email to bob@remarkablepeople.ca
Thank you.

Bob McInnis
Provocateur, Coach, Consultant

Friday, September 7, 2012

5 Remarkable People Questions


 1. What brings you the most joy?

 2. Why does this bring you joy?

 3. What two actions can you take today to have more time for 1?

 4. How committed are you to taking these two actions? (1-10)

 5. What would it take to move the commitment to 10.

 Take 6 or 7 minutes for all the questions. Don’t get bogged down in analysis. Don’t let barriers rise up. Just let the answers flow from you. Write them down. Put this sheet away and reflect on your answers for a day. Tomorrow come back to your answers and jot down what you notice. If you are satisfied and ready for a small step, act on one of your actions. If not answer question 1 again. Rinse and Repeat.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

New Season

The beginning of a new month, a new season often stirs the promise of change in certain elements of our lives. "This is a good time to eat better and get more exercise", " I am going to get up an hour earlier every day and read a good book and make my lunch", I need to listen to him/her more - things could be so much better", " I am going to volunteer", "I am going to find love", " I am going to change things" First, let me tell you that you are remarkable, or at least remarkable is waiting to bloom in your life. Remarkable people live remarkable lives by recognizing their strengths and using them to strengthen themselves and others. That stirring that you are feeling is the remarkable you trying to break out of the mediocrity that the world tries to convince us is the best we can be. Every day we hear messages from big government, big business, big media, big charity that tell us "don't worry your silly little head about that, we will take care of it." In most cases the Big can't, won't and shouldn't be responsible for actions, tasks, services that we are able to look after ourselves. To paraphrase Thomas Jefferson, " I believe every person, given the opportunity and circumstances will take care of herself, his family and her community. But we need to let the remarkable you out, into the world where your small actions can make a big difference (in your life and those around you). Today's challenge is to take a risk - take a small step or better yet a series of small steps towards the change you are seeking (even if it isn't fully formed or understood yet). Taking action is always better than doing nothing. If the first step is a misstep or doesn't quite hit the mark, we can adjust, amend, reverse but if we sit on our couch waiting for amazing to arrive - it will be a long wait and we won't learn what the next step in the journey should be. I urge you accept the challenge and tell others how you did by jotting a comment. Next post will be about how you can fuel the journey with your passion. Make Today Remarkable and tell us how you did.

Friday, August 24, 2012

Leadership or Executive Coaching: Who Needs It?

Reposted from http://www.stepshift.co.nz Tags: leadership coaching, leadership development Posted in: Developing Leaders – Lynn | Monday, January 17th, 2011 So what is it with leadership coaching? Who does need it? Utilising a leadership coach is certainly not an indication that you are an under performer. In the sporting world all the great individual sportsmen and teams recognise the value of a good coach for development of technique, strategy, mental application and focus. What benefits do they and thousands of other successful people get from a good coaching relationship? High performers use leadership coaches for a variety of reasons. A common factor is that they recognise that they do not have all of the answers themselves and that an experienced and skilled leadership coach can assist them to find some answers. An effective executive coach encourages and supports their client to reach further and to achieve more by : providing a perspective that the client cannot provide themselves listening and providing a safe environment where the client can express and resolve their concerns and doubts testing and challenging assumptions held by the client assisting the client set and achieve goals that are challenging providing reassurance and comfort to the client that they are on the right track imposing a discipline on the client’s planning and implementation (a sort of personal fitness trainer for the client’s life) Being coached is a very demanding but fulfilling process and is not an ‘easy option’. Leadership Coaches expect and obtain a lot from their clients. A good executive coach does not shy away from their client but challenges them in a straight forward and uncompromising way to achieve their goals. Fast Company Magazine stated, “Executive coaches are not for the meek. They’re for people who value unambiguous feedback. All coaches have one thing in common, it’s that they are ruthlessly results-oriented.”

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Integrity

Integrity has no need of rules. ~ Albert Camus

What is it to be a person of integrity?

I started writing this post on integrity but then came across this post on the Good Men Project and realized that I couldn't say it any better.
On this Easter weekend, make a commitment to Walk your Talk.

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